Life is naturally stressful

Since the beginning of time stress has been the center of human life and activity: Finding food & shelter and keeping ones offspring out of harm has provided all the adrenaline and stress that anyone needs.  However today, in the West at least, a lot of our stress is of our own making. 

We like to take on responsibility to set ourselves challenges, to push ourselves onwards and upwards.  For most of us, if we are strictly honest with ourselves, stress is much more exciting (and dare I say ‘fun’) than relaxed inactivity.  

I have just spent the good part of a sunny weekend loading and unloading my trailer with chopped firewood and stacking it up in my woodshed ready for the winter.  And why?  I do not need an open fire to keep away tigers and other predators after dark, and my house is centrally heated by an extremely efficient natural gas boiler.  So what’s the point?  

For our ancestors, sitting around the fire, staring into the inner flame listening to the crackling and hissing of the logs as they burn, was probably the only chance they ever had to relax and de-stress at all.  And perhaps it is this basic primeval desire that remains today?

But now with the Spring well and truly here, maybe it is a good time to think about re-learning how to do nothing.  No TV, no debates, no cooking, no cleaning, no emails, no reading, no nothing for just a few minutes everyday?

Learning to share, and to momentarily delegate, some of our responsibilities might take away some of the fun and the reward that comes from stress, but in return it means one can stay chilled and open, more receptive to new ideas and different ways of looking at life.

Have a good week,

Harley,

Comments

While a good dose of stress can be very motivating and rewarding, I also believe in stress-detox-time.
Sure, one might get withdrawal symptoms at first, but after that some time off can be very rewarding.
Just like an engine it's OK to make the rev counter hug the red zone, but if you keep it there it's going to burn out for sure.
After some time in the idle zone, the kick of pushing the inside of the envelope is way more satisfacting than when you continuously do that.
The trick is "letting go", even for a few minutes each day, and that is far from easy these days.

I am happy to negotiate the term 'doing nothing', it could also include, at a push: reading a book (preferably a novel or possibly a collection of poems), or even listening to music, but in any case it should be a pastime that involves sitting or lying still and is completely self indulgent. I suppose it could even be a spell in a health clinic: A massage or sauna - but even these can be stressful in the wrong company, and usually you still have to return home by car! 

I wonder if there is much benefit to be had from doing nothing "for just a few minutes a day"? Wouldn't your mind immediately start racing and hundreds of topics surface within split seconds? Cave man (must I also write woman?), I believe, was relaxed most of the time, because s/he concentrated on one thing at a time: hunting, cooking, making a tool... We cannot relax because our brain seems to have been re-wired for "multi-tasking" and we got hooked on it. The system we live in does not value one-track minds. Stress has therefore become systemic rather than circumstantial (e.g. when cave (wo)man was fighting a lion or giving birth). Can we roll back the system? Try Cuba! Sea, sun... and lots of laid-back people who do nothing. Does multi-tasking post-industrial (wo)man blend in and enjoy or stress because nothing works? I let you guess.

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